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Hi Im Scot Meyers and I have a Christmas addiction....

This past week I was in a pretty intense discussion with my wife. while in this discusion it was brought to my attention that i spend a lot of time and money building additions to my display. And that I needed to find balance. So i ask how do many of you find Balance between your displays and your family.

As many of you can attest, Just when you think you have reached the desired look of your display somehting else comes along and you want to add that too. its a cancer that runs wild in me especially when the imagination gets going.

so anyone want to share? Hi Im Scot Meyers and I have a Christmas addiction....

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Hi Scott!

I'm Dale. And I am a Christmas Decoration Addict too. But I have to tell you that if you are looking for ways to overcome or cope with your addiction here, this is the wrong place. Coming to PC is like having an AA meeting in the neighborhood bar. We are your enablers.

That being said, balancing family and addiction is a difficult task and has to be evaluated on an individual basis.

For instance, is anybody else in your immediate family addicted too? If so, the two of you can work together to enable your addiction further.

If not, you are in a difficult situation indeed.

My family is not as addicted to decorations as I am. So it is easier for me to sate myself by lurking here with my fellow enablers.

The rest is easy. I just put aside a small portion of funds in a hidden coffee can buried in the back yard and raid it in May, November and late December/January to feed my addiction. I have also found that gift cards are a great way to bank funds too.

If you have other hints on how to fund your habit, please reply.

My name is Dale Woodall and I have a Christmas addiction!

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Hi I'm Scott with two T's and I too have an addiction to Christmas decorating, but I am turning my life around.

I am also Canadian and were more conservative, therefor we can hold back from getting to over board with decorating. More than likely the cost to buy things in Canada (especial up here in the Edmonton area) helps to control addiction in Christmas decorating.

Not having a job helps too. Keeping in mine what Christmas should mean also helps. My wife reminds me that "your doing exactly what Charles M Schulz was trying to fight against................commercialism"

She made it clear back in 2008 that I was rejecting the family and embracing the light show more.............something like your wife said to you I would think. So I get done what I need to get done for my wife, around the house etc 1st then I work on my display.

Coming here like Dale W said does not help. I do not go near the "motorized contraption" forum that much these days since I built my Ferris Wheel back in 2008.

I also missed coming up with my own ideas like I did before, so now I am getting back to decorating from my heart and not from sight right off the bat.

Remember God ordained the family before anything else. Your family comes 1st.

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My name is Brad and I have a Christmas addiction too mainly blowmolds but I do have wireframes, inflatables,etc. I don't have a family anymore other than my parents and sisters so I don't really have to balance family time and decorating but when you have 5 sheds full of decor you have to learn to cut back. I cut back by not going to as many yard sales, cut out Ebay completely, and just don't buy much anymore after Christmas. That being said I am sneaking back a truckload of blowmolds this weekend from NC.

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Hi. My name is Dan and I have a Christmas addiction also. Oh well.....

I keep telling my wife it's better that I'm in the basement every night have out at the bar! Have to admit that there are times I feel I spend too much time on this and when I do, I step back and take the Mrs. out to dinner or something. I also will feel a little guilty spending cash, so I watch. But I have to say, I'm lucky in that she really does support the hobby. Guess I'll keep her!!

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It's hard to cut back an addiction cold turkey, so I say pick one day a year (say, your Birthday) where you won't "build" anything Christmas related, but posting to Christmas forums would still be okay.

(I realize this post doesn't add anything to the seriousness of your post - it was just my way of saying Happy Birthday Scot)

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Happy birthday Scot.

I too am addicted to this hobby but in my case I have my family's total support. It's easier for me because my kids are grown. I think it would be an entirely different situation if they were still young children. I always had a sizable static display but it didn't take up a whole lot of time.

When my kids were young my hobby was running a girls softball league. I served on the board of directors and as president. I also coached. There were 900 girls and 68 teams in the league and was run entirely by a few volunteers. Running that animal was almost a year round job and took up most of my spare time. We had a six field complex and I was there all weekend and every night after work during spring and summer. The difference was that my wife and kids were there with me meaning that that hobby didn't take me away from my family.

Before the kids my hobby was drag racing. My wife didn't care for that at all because it not only kept me away from home a lot, it was a very expensive hobby. It's tough to tell your wife that the engine you just spent 10 grand building blew up on it's third run.

After softball when the kids were teens and really didn't want to be around their parents all that much, I served in public office, that was extremely time consuming and took me away from home all the time.

This hobby does take up much of my spare time and a lot of my spare money but at least I am always home. My wife supports it 100 percent and without that support I wouldn't be able to do it.

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Hi Scott,

I too am addidicted, this is subject that me and my loving spouse have talked about from time to time.

This addiction is made worse by the fact that I work at home, and PC and Ebay are always on, and are

accessed while uploading a file, or waiting on the phone.

I am also guilty of passing this addition to my grandson whose favorite form of entertainment is now

U-Tube videos of Christmas lights.

I have found that I need to make sure that family comes first, .... time, money and space in the garage.

I use the good, better, best philosphy. When making choices about a purchase, or time spent, I think, is this

a good choice or a best choice. As our garage filled, my husband and I made a compromized and made a list

of my wish list, and instead of buying everything I see, I am now working at the one or two best items on my

list.

On a lighter note, Greyhound just called and one of the items on the best list, my 5 foot Santa just arrived. Yipeee!!!!

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Hi Scot

Iam Don Davis And I am a Christmas Decoration Addict too. I have always Loved christmas

when I was a kid all I ever had was a christmas tree and I wanted lights and lights and lights. So I promised my self when I became a adult and my own house it would be covered well one year I was asked by the airport to tone it down because airplanes were being pulled off course, Thats when I knew that I am a Christmas Decoration Addict. So I went to the LOR doctors for help They promised Help but now and prescibed the light show they said the blinky lights would cure me I think it was a scam because I have to keep buying these controllers to keep me happy Oh the Humanity Is there any help out there for me..

Don

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Guest Scot Meyers

It's hard to cut back an addiction cold turkey, so I say pick one day a year (say, your Birthday) where you won't "build" anything Christmas related, but posting to Christmas forums would still be okay.

(I realize this post doesn't add anything to the seriousness of your post - it was just my way of saying Happy Birthday Scot)

WOW

Thanks for the birthday wish Andy.

I have been so busy with the animated band build that have not read this post in a while. (see i am so addicted)

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Yes, I am addicted too. I spend hours in the garage in the Texas summers (yes hot as ....) and cut, paint, assemble all kinds of things. I am thinking about adding an A/C vent into the garage. More expense! I now have 65 wooden cutouts and all I can think about is next year and the other ones I want to make. More lights, motorized things, entire villages, etc. I am busy creating scenery this year, more trees, a few arches, songs, and thinking about buying my first 16 channel LOR. I hate to admit this but this is really my first hobby in my whole life and let's just say I'm around 50. I must admit that I must find balance soon due to storage space. UPDATE: I found extra storage! Yes! I will share a rental unit with my neighbor! YIPPEE That puts off the finding balance for another year!

Seriously, I also need to find balance. I must make a concerted effort to remember to keep my family and obligations as my first priorities!

God's blessings to all of you! Always remember it is folks like us that bring the smiles on those little faces. We are the reason families all get in the car and spend some quality time together driving around to see that special magic we create.

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Hi, I'm Richard and I have a Christmas addiction as well.

It is hard, I know your pain Scot. I'm 18 and don't have to balance a family yet, but need to be saving for a car. It's kinda hard when you walk into Walmart or Kmart and see a decoration you want..one of these days I will start cutting back.

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I'm going to post here as I did lose my family over my obsession. I was with a gal for almost 4 yrs before finding the addiction of Christmas decorating and animation. The time that she and I spent became less and less. Also with my son and other two children in the house. 2 years ago she and I split up a month before our wedding. She told me I had become more fixated on doing Christmas than being with the family. She found what she needed (love, attention and other things) with another man. I have been paying for this ever since.

Has my love and obsession for this decreased? Yes and greatly so. I do sequencing for others, yes but I don't sit in front of the computer day in and day out looking over every post, thread, various forums, groups, or ideas that come along. I don't do a personal display as I feel I would find myself back in the obsession craze I had been when she and I went our different ways.

I can only recommend that if you find yourself in a situation where it becomes either family or your display, you best give up your display. The pain I deal with everyday living with the thought that I don't get to see my son every night, play ball after school or do other things that I used to do with him or the other kids, is very real and is something I don't ever recommend that others have to deal with or live through. Time, decorations, nor more blinking lights will ever take place of those memories.

I'm Lyman Rate and I'm addicted to Christmas decorating. Just not as much as I used to!

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I'm going to post here as I did lose my family over my obsession. I was with a gal for almost 4 yrs before finding the addiction of Christmas decorating and animation. The time that she and I spent became less and less. Also with my son and other two children in the house. 2 years ago she and I split up a month before our wedding. She told me I had become more fixated on doing Christmas than being with the family. She found what she needed (love, attention and other things) with another man. I have been paying for this ever since.

Has my love and obsession for this decreased? Yes and greatly so. I do sequencing for others, yes but I don't sit in front of the computer day in and day out looking over every post, thread, various forums, groups, or ideas that come along. I don't do a personal display as I feel I would find myself back in the obsession craze I had been when she and I went our different ways.

I can only recommend that if you find yourself in a situation where it becomes either family or your display, you best give up your display. The pain I deal with everyday living with the thought that I don't get to see my son every night, play ball after school or do other things that I used to do with him or the other kids, is very real and is something I don't ever recommend that others have to deal with or live through. Time, decorations, nor more blinking lights will ever take place of those memories.

I'm Lyman Rate and I'm addicted to Christmas decorating. Just not as much as I used to!

I was very sorry to hear of your loss / situation. It sounds like you've got a good grip on your priorities now and I wish you the best.

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Matt. I really like your avatar pic! It's awesome!

Hi Scott! I am also a light addict but also a college student, so I haven't had much time for lights so far this year. But here's to hoping I can finish 6 more songs by November 25!

More people tell me I'm obsessed, I actually haven't been called an addict yet. I really don't care, I just love lights!

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Hi, I am Jeff and I too have a Christmas Addiction! How do I know this? I just found out that LEDs look much cooler than my regular minis and it upsets me enought to ditch all of them this year. Yes, I love the "cartoonish" look!! Plus added 2 new LOR controllers this year and have to resequence everything. Lets just say back to square one for me this year! My wife really likes the looks of LEDs also so this helps and I do remember the Reason for the Season!

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